- Ela Senghera
Embracing Your True Identity in a Romantic Relationship

Our identity encompasses the core essence of who we are, our beliefs, values, passions, and dreams. Yet, it's not uncommon for our sense of self to become diluted or overshadowed when we enter into a relationship. In this blog post, we'll explore the reasons behind this phenomenon and share practical strategies to reignite the connection with ourselves, nurturing our individuality alongside the beauty of togetherness.
The All-Consuming Love: When we experience the whirlwind of love, it's natural to prioritize our partner's happiness. However, in the process, we may unintentionally set aside our own needs, passions, and aspirations. The intensity of love can sometimes blur the lines of our individual identity, as we become immersed in the relationship. It's crucial to remember that love should enhance our lives, not diminish our sense of self.
Blending into One: Oftentimes when a relationship deepens, we may find ourselves intertwining with our partner, creating a beautiful union. However, losing touch with our own desires, opinions, and dreams can lead to a sense of emptiness or disconnection from our true selves. Honoring our individuality while nurturing the bond can create a harmonious balance, where both partners thrive as unique individuals within the relationship.
How Can You Reinstate the Connection with Yourself?
a) Reflect and Reconnect: Carve out moments of self-reflection and introspection. Explore the passions, interests, and dreams that ignite your soul. Engage in activities that bring you joy and allow your authentic self to shine. Find time to regurarly reconnect with your core values, goals, and aspirations, and let them guide your decisions and actions.
b) Open Communication: Always aim to foster an environment of open and honest communication with your partner. Express the importance of maintaining individual identities within the relationship. Share your needs, fears, and desires, creating a space of understanding and support. Encourage each other's personal growth and provide room for independent pursuits. that will really allow you to flourish in a relationship. Feel independent and happy
c) Cultivate Self-Care Rituals: Prioritize self-care as a fundamental part of your daily routine. Nourish your physical, emotional, and mental well-being through practices such as exercise, meditation, journaling, or engaging in creative endeavors. Taking care of yourself replenishes your spirit, allowing you to feel more centered and connected to your true self.
d) Seek Support and Resources: Seeking support and guidance can be invaluable on the journey of self-discovery. Consider exploring therapy, counseling, or joining support groups focused on personal growth and relationship dynamics. Additionally, look for resources like workbooks or journals designed to help you embrace your identity within a relationship.

What is your experience? Are you your true self in your relationship? Many of us are guilty of not respecting our own boundaries and accommodating too much to please our partner or simply to keep peace in a family. So if you feel a bit confused or lost, you are not alone. This is why we have created True Identity Checklist. Our 10 Point Checklist is there to help you identify the areas that need improvement and offer you practical tips on how to go about it. To access this resource please go to Free Resources section in our menu.
You can also listen to our podcast on Spotify, where in July's episode we spoke about how we lose ourselves in our relationships and how to crete a new identity once in a relationship.